If not, how should someone handle the situation of being in love and wanting to marry with someone in another religion (or no religion at all)?
This isn’t something I personally have to confront, but I honestly can see myself falling into that kind of situation… and I’m sure to some it might seem petty or even silly because of the fact that you love that person, but after witnessin the way my parent’s (who were from 2 different doctrines) marriage fall apart, and adding in my personal level of devotion, I really don’t think I’d know how to handle a situation like that… to be in love with somebody who isn’t willing to convert, or earnest in their conversion… mayne lol, somebody let me know somethin
I don’t know about mixed religions, but I think it’s possible if one of them isn’t very devout and the other is. If they’re both devout, it’s going to be tough.
This is also the case of denominations within a religion. For instance, my parents are both Christian, but my mother is a member of the Church of Christ. When she met my father, he was Baptist. He wasn’t devout, but she was: he converted after studying with her for a while.
My brother grew up in the Church of Christ, but he married a Methodist girl, and they’ve gone to a Methodist church since they’ve been married.
Their marriages have been strong.
I (Church of Christ) married someone who was Catholic, and he joined the Church of Christ, but we recently divorced. But it had nothing to do with religion.
I guess it just depends on a lot of factors.
I’ve seen them work. I’ve seen them fail.
I know a Pagan and a Christian who’ve been together 20+ years and still going strong.
I knew a Christian and a Jew once (neighbors) they were married quite a while and seemed quite happy, they were both in their 50’s by the time I met them so I suspect it will last.
I knew a Christian (non-practicing Catholic) and a Pagan and it ended horribly, religion was part of it (the non-practicing Catholic wanted the children brought up Catholic, the Pagan didn’t), but not the only reason I think that one fell apart.
I knew someone who converted to Wicca shortly after marrying an Atheist… years later she is unhappy with him because he won’t celebrate holidays with her and he makes fun of her faith, and she can’t do religious things in the house because it offends him.
I think it depends on the people in the marriage… a lot has to do with how much they respect each other’s faith and beliefs.
It doesn’t generally work if one person goes in it with the intentions that some day they will convert the other because that would be best.
It also helps to really discuss things like whether people will be expected to attend services or celebrate holidays together, or what type of wedding will be planned, or how children will be raised, etc., ahead of time.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years and we’ve always had a very happy marriage. Until this last year, he was an atheist and I was Pagan. This really didn’t cause us any problems because we were both respectful of each other’s ideas about religion. Now we are both atheists and while it’s nice to be on the same page about one more thing, it hasn’t changed our marriage at all.
My parents were married 35 years (until my dad’s death) and they were different religions as well. There are lots of things you need to agree on in order to remain happy in a marriage – things like how to raise children, financial matters, general goals and ideas about life, and you need to have a few things in common. But it isn’t necessary to agree on everything and as long as each party can be respectful towards the other’s beliefs it can work.
Wow, what a complex situation. First of all, he cannot be Muslim and Hindu at the same time. It doesn’t work that way. The very basics of being Islam prevent him from being Hindu too. And if he is drinking alcohol he certainly is not practicing Islam well. I think he needs to find himself, establish an identity and decide what he wants before he gets into a relationship with anybody.
It has worked, but imagine how confused the kids get if the parents try to teach both religions and then have the kids choose their own. I suppose in some ways it opens things up for children to decide for themselves which is what many people prefer. Often times though in my opinion I think it is best to marry within your own religious group. I think it is much healthier to have a united front when raising children, teaching them about other cultures as well, but giving them an identity within the family and social stuture.
Yes it can work. 🙂
But there has to be mutual respect, and along with that, no trying to convert the other and no putting down the beliefs of the other. You can’t be in a solid relationship without accepting the other person as they are. If you go in thinking you can change their mind someday, it’s doomed before you say ":I do.":
I adore someone who is not a Christian and I know he knows I have feelings for him, but I cant be with him(marriage) because I have a problem with his religion. Isn’t it sad, we pray to the same God but we just choose to do it in a different way, so we decide we cant be together, what if that is your ":soul mate":. Religion and matters of the heart are the same as Race and matters of the heart, as long as it is good, pure and done the right way, God’s way, why cant it work.
I think that if the people in the relationship were tolerant and open-minded about each other’s beliefs and didn’t try to convert each other, that it could work.
However, if you have a fundie and a militant atheist, I highly doubt anything good would come of it.
It takes a lot of effort, but it does work out for some people.
My parents don’t share the same religion. They’ll be celebrating their 25th anniversary this fall.
Well, 50% of all marriages end in divorce and the other 50% end in death.
Sure it can work, if both people respect and love each other I reckon.